Parenting is hard. No doubt about that. But do you have what it takes to be a good parent?
It takes selflessness and sacrifice. Being a parent means that there are others’ needs which are more important than yours. Their needs must be met, because they are dependent on you – their caregiver. Even if you were up all night feeding a baby, and taking care of two sick children – there is no option for sleeping. Meals must be made, diapers changed, and emotional needs met.
It takes motivation. There are many days where all you want to do is sit and do nothing. But when you are a parent, that is not an option. You need to keep up with that laundry, and cleaning those dishes – because they sure aren’t going to clean themselves!
It takes patience. Kids know how to get under your skin. But the trick is not letting them know that they are getting to you. Even though you have reminded them a thousand times to watch their arms, they always manage to spill their drink all over the table. Or they are mad because you’ve said no, and you’re ruining their life.
It takes organization and multi-tasking capabilities. If you can’t help to children with their school workbooks, while making sure the toddler is coloring with the crayons and not the markers, while unloading the dishwasher, cooking dinner and transferring the load of wet clothes to the dryer, all while carrying baby… Well then – you’ll never get it all done.
It takes liking your children – not just loving them. It’s not just about being proud of their firsts and their accomplishments, but it’s also about wanting to spend time with them. Sharing everyday experiences such as playing with toys together, coloring, reading stories, doing a craft, baking in the kitchen, playing and doing chores outside, etc. Time spent is the currency that is worth the most to children. Showing them they are worth spending time with, enjoying their presence, and what they have to offer…
It takes work. Hard work.
But in the end, when they smile at you with complete and utter adoration, or say “I Love You” for the first time, and nothing else matters.